22 March 2014 @ 07:31 am
At ConDor.

Yesterday I was on three panels, two concerning romance, and all of the panelists were women. (Five on each, with some repeats.) There is something especially exhilarating being on panels with smart, well-read women. In each case, the hour sped by, and the talk went on to the last second.

I couldn't help but be sorry that some guys didn't volunteer for at least the second romance one, which was about sustaining relationships in books/series. Romance in the 21st century seems still to be relegated to the female, which is so odd when you consider that the great romances of the eighteenth century (and most of them came out right at mid-century) were all written by men. 1749 was a remarkable year for influential novels, all written by men, and all about gender dynamics, let us say. Clarissa is not a "romance" in the sense that we now understand the word.

The one panel not specifically about romance was on Victoriana and steampunk, and a ton of fun.

In the department of Petty Monkey Being Petty: for days I promised myself room service for breakfast. I would not look at the cost compared to walking somewhere and being thrifty. A meal that I did not have to cook or clean up after, while I luxuriated here, ahhhh! After which I shall sink into a bathtub, a real bathtub! But I forgot my perfume. A bath isn't a true bath without that one drop.

I have only two panels today, but a bunch of people I hope to catch up with. Looking forward to the day.
whswhs: pic#67542548whswhs on March 22nd, 2014 02:46 pm (UTC)
I thought about attending the "sustaining relationships" one, but my interest is a bit tangential: I deal with that issue in roleplaying campaigns. Fairly often, actually; more than one of my campaigns has ended with a betrothal. But I thought it might be too much of a sidetrack if I actually brought it up. However, I'm expecting to take in Broad Appeal/Personal Touch today.

Edited at 2014-03-22 02:47 pm (UTC)
Kalimac: puzzlekalimac on March 22nd, 2014 03:09 pm (UTC)
I'm sure they would have asked Mr. Richardson to be on the panel, but unfortunately he wasn't available.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 22nd, 2014 03:36 pm (UTC)
This is true.
Estara: pic#2810740estara on March 22nd, 2014 05:32 pm (UTC)
I hope you treated yourself anyway (at least to room service), even without the perfume. So great to hear you're enjoying yourself.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 22nd, 2014 06:23 pm (UTC)
Wandering Hedgehog: Rebecca's bitchoursin on March 22nd, 2014 05:33 pm (UTC)
There is an apposite comment here: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: 'Don't we all write about love? When men do it, it's a political comment. When women do it, it's just a love story'.

As I posted recently, of late I have been required to read a number of sff works by men - I was quite struck by how often luurhv featured as significant in the plot, in some instances the full Amor Vincit Omnia trope. But we are always being told that the gurlz are bringing their soppy ro-mance into this hard manly genre.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 22nd, 2014 06:23 pm (UTC)
Yes, and yes. Thank you for that link. Fascinating!
asakiyume: mirokuasakiyume on March 23rd, 2014 04:52 pm (UTC)
Echoing sartorias: thank you very much for that link. This struck me, too:

No one, Ifemelu muses, has a "panic attack" in Kinshasa. "Did things begin to exist only when they were named?" --what we name and how we name things affects our perceptions: language is so important.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 23rd, 2014 04:55 pm (UTC)
I hope you are feeling better!
asakiyume: nighthawk flyingasakiyume on March 23rd, 2014 05:08 pm (UTC)
A lot better, thanks. Still very headachy and congested and coughing but NOT, thank God, unable to keep food down.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 23rd, 2014 05:12 pm (UTC)
Good! May that improve rapidly!
Kari Sperringla_marquise_de_ on March 23rd, 2014 10:33 am (UTC)
Room service breakfast is a real treat.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 23rd, 2014 12:24 pm (UTC)
It was heavenly. I even ate it in bed!
asakiyume: lovestruckasakiyume on March 23rd, 2014 04:46 pm (UTC)
It's weird that in our contemporary world, where men and women are more equal and more able to venture into areas that in the past were marked keep out, some things still apparently have girl cooties.

I don't have any experience with contemporary romance novels, but I wonder if the Lia Silver novel might be the sort of thing that guys could get into too.

It's a mystery. ("No, it's a romance"<--bad joke)

Glad you got a bit of pampering, but too bad about the perfume!
Queen of the Skiesqueenoftheskies on March 24th, 2014 04:48 pm (UTC)
Did you enjoy your weekend, overall? Room service sounds heavenly. And, the hotel is so beautiful.

It was wonderful to see you again.

And the convention was quite awesome.
Sherwood Smithsartorias on March 24th, 2014 04:58 pm (UTC)
Oh, I had a splendid time! (Unfortunate end, my daughter needing a trip to Urgent Care, which cut short the end of the con, but she's fine--a paint chip under her eyelids--and so all is well.)